One of the most challenging issues that high school students face in thinking about college is how to continue a relationship from high school. In some cases, one of you will be still in high school while the other half is in college. In other cases, you may decide to go to different colleges. Obviously the relationship is going to be challenged. In fact it will be challenged even when both of you go to the same college.
It’s tough to accept, but the fact is that very few high school relationships survive college. The reasons can vary, but generally they include:
- The long distance just doesn’t work
- The relationship distracts from classes
- There are too many other possibilities on campus to limit yourself to one person
- Interests change and the relationship doesn’t change with them
Unfortunately a break up while in college can be very damaging to your grades. You can’t focus on your classes for weeks. The next thing you know, you are in academic trouble.
You will be better off if you can end the relationship before you go to college. This sounds harsh, but you need to deal with the reality that few relationships ever last. So it’s best to end them when the consequences are less serious. One final comment from an unnamed source: “Why would you take sand to a beach?”.